Here's a shocker: Men love sex. Thinking about it, watching it, doing
it—your day is probably sprinkled with sexual urges. How often? Ten, 20, 50
times a day? Is once every 10 minutes a reason to start worrying? Where’s the
line between being obsessed . . . and just being a living, breathing guy?
Studies have shown that as many as 1 in 25 people report an
uncontrollable obsession with sexual thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. But
whether sex addiction is even a real thing is up for debate. As it's clinically
known, hypersexuality didn’t make the cut to be included in the newest version
of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM),
the bible of diagnosing mental disorders. But if you were to ask Tiger Woods, a
voracious sexual appetite is a very real thing.
And research is mounting in support of an official addiction diagnosis:
A recent British study found that when people with self-reported sex
addictions—those who had especially high levels of desire they considered
uncontrollable and sometimes impairing—watched porn, it triggered brain
activity similar to that prompted by drug cues in the brains of drug addicts.
(Are you hooked on smut? Dive into The Debate on Porn.)
This suggests some people yearn for sex, regardless of pleasurability,
like addicts crave drugs. Over time, the reward pathways in the brain of
addicts are restructured, which is why they crave certain things so badly,
explains sex addiction expert Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., founder of the
International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals.
But it’s not all learned behavior. Some people are just naturally
aroused easier: In a 2013 study, UCLA researchers found that when people who
identified as sex addicts were asked to look at provocative images, their
brain’s response was linked more with their sexual yearning than their
self-reported level of addiction.
“People with a high sexual desire probably have a predisposition to
seek out sex because it feels better to them neurologically,” says study author
Nicole Prause, Ph.D., researcher in UCLA’s department of Psychiatry and
Biobehavioral Sciences. Even the ability to orgasm can be genetic, she adds.
(For more climax facts, discover 10 Things You Didn't Know About Your Orgasms.)
So does an insatiable libido, whether natural or not, mean you have a
clinical problem? Not necessarily. Hypersexuality is typically associated with
people who feel their urges have a negative effect on those around them, or who
are unable to control their needs despite trying. All researchers agree the
trouble line is drawn when your desire starts to interfere with your well-being,
not necessarily whether your thirst is quenchless: “Even statistically
non-normal behaviors, like masturbating three times a day, may not cause
distress or problems in a person’s life,” Prause adds.
So whether you’re ready to get it on once a month or three times a day,
it’s not cause for concern unless it interferes with things like work, family,
or relationships. And while Prause points out there’s no method of diagnosing
high-frequency sexual behaviors alone and no specific treatment for sex
addiction, seeing a therapist can still help, as they would with any problem
behavior.
Plus, Carnes points out, a professional can help you deal with
worrisome habits before they become full-blown, life-damaging problems. Look
for a therapist who specializes in sexual disorders. (Psychology Today has a great, comprehensive list.)
No comments:
Post a Comment