Ask for what you need
Asking for what you need is probably the most underutilised tool for
people. And yet, amazing requests have been granted to people simply
because they’ve asked for it!
Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or just time,
most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their
dreams come true.
We might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even
greedy. More than likely, though, it is the fear of rejection that is
holding us back.
Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection? Remember
rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as
rejection! Being rejected doesn’t hold you back from anything. Only YOU
hold yourself back. When you realise that there’s no merit to rejection,
you’ll feel more comfortable asking for things.
There’s a specific science to asking for and getting what you want or
need in life. And while I recommend you learn more by studying The
Aladdin Factor, here are some quick tips that help me and might help you
get started:
- Ask with a positive expectation. Ask as if you expect to get a “yes.”
- Don’t start with the assumption that you can’t get it. If you are going to assume, assume you can get an upgrade. Assume you can get a table by the window. Assume that you can return it without a sales slip. Assume that you can get a scholarship, that you can get a raise, that you can get tickets at this late date. Don’t ever assume against yourself.
- Be clear and specific. I was at a seminar, and we were asked, “Who wants more money in their life?” most of us did, someone who raised their hand was given 10 Kwacha, asking, “Is that enough for you?” “No, the person replied? Well, how would I know how much you want? How would anybody know?”You need to ask for a specific number. Too many people are walking around wanting more of something, but not being specific enough to obtain it.
- Ask repeatedly. One of the most important Success Principles is the commitment to not give up.
Whenever we’re asking others to participate in the fulfillment of our
goals, some people are going to say “no.” They may have other
priorities, commitments and reasons not to participate. It’s no
reflection on you.
Just get used to the idea that there’s going to be a lot of rejection
along the way to the brass ring. The key is to not give up. When
someone says “No”— ask for the reason.
Because when you keep on asking, even the same person again and again…they might say “yes”…
…on a different day
…when they are in a better mood
…when you have new data to present
…after you’ve proven your commitment to them
…when circumstances have changed
…when you’ve established better rapport
…when they trust you more
…when you have paid your dues
…when the economy is better
…and so on.
…when they are in a better mood
…when you have new data to present
…after you’ve proven your commitment to them
…when circumstances have changed
…when you’ve established better rapport
…when they trust you more
…when you have paid your dues
…when the economy is better
…and so on.
Kids know this Success Principle better than anyone. They will ask the same person over and over again without any hesitation.
Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will
make a world of difference for you as you work towards your goals.
Practice asking and you’ll get very good at it! You’ll even speed your
progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get
it later.
Remember, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE… if you dare to ask!
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