In this series, professionals share how they rocked — or didn't! —
the all-important first 90 days on the job. Follow the stories here and write your own (please include the hashtag #First90 in the body of your post).
Before
offering any advice, let me recount my first 90 days as a doctor, newly
arrived in the U.S. from India. It was 1971 during a severe doctor
shortage. I sat in a New Jersey motel with my new wife, watching the
first color TV we'd ever seen. On the evening news they showed a
stretcher being wheeled into an emergency room after a gunshot battle in
the streets.
"Oh my God," I said to Rita. "That’s my hospital!"
The
next morning I was thrown into complete culture shock. Even though
doctors were desperately needed, a young doctor from India wasn't a
welcome presence. My workload was intense. The ER exposed me to severe
trauma from gunshots and other kinds of violence on a daily, sometimes
hourly basis. The pay was poor, the hours long, the stress sometimes
overwhelming.
So how do those 90 days apply to you? The
implications are both positive and negative; in other words, here's what
to do and what not to do.
To Do: On the positive side, jump in feet first. Apply yourself to the best of your abilities and then go two steps beyond. Make every day a challenge. Take responsibility for everything you influence, not just the things that fall into your job description.
Don't Do:
On the negative side, don't let the work overwhelm you. Don't compare
yourself with others to your detriment. Avoid unproductive stress, the
kind that has no beneficial outcome. Don't let your relationships suffer
from the job. Don't bring your work home if you can help it.
You'll
notice that this advice is not only common — it can be found in almost
any book about job success — but it's contradictory. Even though every
piece of it makes sense, nobody in real life actually manages to balance
do's and don’ts very well because life comes at us too fast. The moment
is usually too demanding to stand back from with considered detachment
and wisdom.
So, knowing that I was the survivor of my first 90
days, as well as its victim, its conqueror, its bewildered participant,
and the receiver of lessons I didn't heed quickly enough, what can I say
to someone who has just been thrown into the throes of a new job?
One thing: Take your well-being seriously.
This is serious medical advice. The factors that cause chronic illness
are known to reach back in time by years, and the self-care you apply
today will pay off in the future far more than you realize. Stress, for
example, isn't just work pressure that you release by blowing off steam,
relaxing at home, or having a cocktail or two. Stress is a state of
imbalance that affects every cell in the body, creating subtle
situations that will have enormous consequences if imbalance isn't
restored.
Well-being isn't a high priority among the young, the
ambitious, and the successful. You don't have to give up your personal
vision of success to be well. The only requirement is to be mindful in
some simple ways:
- Know our stress limit and walk away when you are getting close to it, not after you cross the line.
- Avoid people who apply stress.
- Keep your body moving and active.
- Set aside down time every day and don't ignore it.
- Incorporate play time in your daily routine.
- Monitor how you feel and attend to signs of discomfort.
- Don't add to someone else's burden, especially by stressing them.
- Be honest about your emotions and express them to someone you trust.
- Have at least one person in your life who truly knows who you are and values you for it.
These things, if you take them seriously, will lead you on the path of lifelong well-being. I didn't catch on until I had been a working doctor for 15 years, because no one in the medical profession knew about well-being back then. The whole focus was on treating disease symptoms after they appeared. Now it is widely acknowledged that self-care plays the major part in avoiding future illness, something only you can do for yourself. It's further acknowledged that self-care can't be postponed until trouble appears. The good news is that tending to our well-being is easiest where it's most effective — in your daily life right this minute.
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