I Married A Man Who Proposed Within 20 Minutes Of Meeting Me

I got married for the first time when I was very young. We eventually ended up getting divorced, and I shifted my career from social work to matchmaking.

A few years later, once my matchmaking company was up and running, I knew I was ready to get married again. Having made this decision, my love goggles were on. I was super friendly everywhere I went, kept my eyes open for opportunity, and was confident with who I was and what I was looking for.

A week after I made this important decision, I stopped by a local coffee shop with a friend after seeing a band play. Pretty immediately I spotted a guy across the room that I thought was really attractive. He was wearing a dapper 1940s get up, so I yelled over to him, "Hey 1940s dude! What are you eating?"

Now, I know not everyone would be comfortable yelling across the room like that, but that's my personality: I am extremely friendly and outgoing. Whatever your style is you can achieve this same effect, even if it is just with a long smile in their direction, or a wave hello.

After I got his attention, it seemed like he was super excited that I had reached out to him. He asked me right away to sit down with him, and of course, I did.  

At this point in the story I should also mention that I do have a skill for choosing nice guys that are capable of healthy relationships. It is really important to master the skill of being able to spot a nice guy. You do not want to be blinded by a player. No matter how you approach a player (someone not interested in commitment), you won't be able to turn their marriage light on in 20 minutes.

So, I'm sitting with this super cute guy, and he tells me about how he just moved to New York from Louisiana. He recently got his PHD in herpetology, and was a specialist in studying the evolution of snakes and their DNA. Nerdy I know, but that's what I loved.

I was so impressed by him: he was young, smart, and extremely down to earth. Within the next two minutes I found out that he was from the Midwest and had the same life views as me, as well as a similar style. 

I promise you that this kind of story can happen to you too. It all comes down to being confident when you walk into a room, and choosing the person you engage with wisely. Be intriguing, curious, and find your own style. The rest will fall into place in time.

Whether you find your love in 20 minutes or maybe a little longer, you will indeed find your partner if you remain open to the possibilities, aren't judgmental, see the good in others and are awesome to be around.

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