“There’s a stigma attached to single mothers especially if you have a child outside wedlock.” – Bisola Aiyeola

Her  romance with Thin Tall Tony, Bisola Aiyeola was greatly criticized especially when it became known that she is a mother

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In an interview with Ebuka Obi Uchendu on “Rubbin Minds,” The Big Brother Naija star  Bisola explained that she doesn’t regret her actions in the house.She explained that if all she did on the show was done by a single father, he would have been hailed.

According to her:,

There’s a stigma attached to single mothers especially if you have a child outside wedlock. You’re judged. A lot of people actually said to me that they thought I had my child when I was in secondary school but no I was a grown woman. I was 23-years old when I had her.

But you know, they make it seem like the whole world is against you. It’s now up to the woman to bring herself up and I have an amazing family. My mom has always been on my side. If I was a guy, I would be celebrated more.

On Tiny Tall

No. I don’t want to dwell on the issue. Personally, I don’t think there is nothing he has to explain to me. I would like him to go on with his family. I don’t want to cause any problems, especially with social media.

Although, I felt like he did me wrong. I felt like we were friends, the least you could do is tell me this and tell me to keep it a secret and I would have done that. I felt he did me bad on that but that’s just about it. It was a game. But I’m seeing it from the game perspective like he felt that was the way he felt he could play his game and I can’t judge him for that.

But moving on now, there were times we’ve been at gatherings together and we take pictures and the next thing, I start getting DMs and comments saying, “why is she standing far away from him?” and people take this thing really seriously and I’m like, “I’m trying to make the most of this platform, he’s trying to make the most of this platform, like, he’s doing his business, I’m doing my business.”

The show is over and it’s real life now. I just felt he did what he had to do.

Bullying & Anger Issues

I try as much as possible to let myself out when I’m upset. I’ve lived a number of years in my life bottling things in and it didn’t do me any good. I walk around with this lump in my chest upset at somebody who doesn’t even know that they upset me. So, if you make me upset, I’ll just let it out and once it’s done, it’s out there. I do not like bullies personally.

I have friends who I have stood up for in times past, like, “why are you doing this to this person because she can’t talk?” so, when people are saying I have issues, I say maybe it’s their own way of making me look bad on the show but I’m not a bully.

I believe in standing up for yourself and if you can’t defend yourself, just go ahead and defend yourself because nobody else will defend you better than yourself. I’m not a bully. Maybe I talk a lot, yes, I’m a bit expressive and it’s something I learned in the later part of my life and I don’t regret it.