One of the characteristics that makes us human, is our high level of emotional ability . Beyond our cognitive ability to think logically, we are emotional creatures. We cry while reading sad novels, laugh at a joke and erupt in anger at those who annoy us. Emotion depends on a state of physical arousal, a pleasant or unpleasant sensation. Emotional intelligence
is our ability to understand and control our emotional inner world and
our ability to influence the emotional world of others. We know that in a
lot of aspects emotional intelligence
is more important than its cognitive counterpart; it can predict
success in many areas of life. One way to demonstrate the importance of
emotional intelligence is through the delayed gratification process.
The psychologist, Walter Mischel conducted a study on this subject,
that later became known as “The Marshmallow Experiment”. Mischel tested
the ability of 4 year old children to delay gratification after they
were each given a single marshmallow. The children’s task was simple:
they were told that the tester had to take an urgent call elsewhere and
would return within 15- 20 minutes. If the child was able to resist the
temptation and not eat the marshmallow, another would be given to him
or her, when the tester returned. Mischel was actually testing the
children’s control over their emotions, through their ability to delay
gratification. The children used a variety of techniques to deal with
the task: some closed their eyes, others crossed their arms defiantly,
while others chose more extreme solutions. Mischel followed up on the
children now teenagers,
12 years after the initial experiment. He found those children who had
succeeded in waiting for the tester were more sociable and better at
establishing life goals and accomplishing them. Those who “didn’t wait for the tester" were less sociable, more impulsive and had lower self-esteem. It turns out, that emotional intelligence in general and delaying gratification in particular can predict success in life.
One of the main channels responsible for developing emotional
intelligence is interpersonal communication. When a mother reacts to her
baby’s “smile”, it starts off an emotional dialogue that slowly builds
up to create a repertoire of emotions. Therefore, the language of
emotion language is our first language. We know that humans who were
raised in an emotionally stunted environment
have difficulty in reading people’s emotions and expressing their own
emotions effectively, just like people who struggle to express
themselves in a language in which they have a limited vocabulary.
We live in a world were social interaction exists mainly on the
internet and social media. These settings are characterized by poor
language, a limited emotional repertoire and an absence of body language. For many children in the internet age the concept of friendship
is a quantitative one, akin to collecting stamps. The importance of
quality as opposed to quantity when seeking friendship is a lost concept
for many of today’s youth, who collect friends on social media by
using buttons such “Like” and “Share” to follow their uploads . This
causes many children to constantly struggle with their self-esteem,
because their self-image is wholly dependent on the the approval of their peer group In effort to cope with the pressure, the children develop adult marketing and image management skills as evidenced from their online posts.
Instead of meaningful conversations with close friends where you can
open up and just be yourself, the online world requires you to provide
excitements and thrills at all the times. This reality creates distance
from our inner emotional world. Studies show that over the years there
has been a regression in our empathic capacity; we display less interest
in others, are less involved in social and communal activities, and are
more narcissistic. If we were to observe the youth’s behavior during a
social and interpersonal interaction we are likely to see less mental
presence, infrequent eye contact and brief, irritated glances at a
Smartphone. Even in a public space, there is a feeling that they have
confined themselves within their own sealed bubble in which they
interact on an individual or group level, absorb information or listen
to music, or do them all at once, without reference to the outside
world. We really don’t need to look any further then the checkout line
in the supermarket. There seem to be more and more people who treat the
cashier as part of the cash- register ’s machinery. Some don’t even
bother to pull themselves away from their Smartphone and multitasking;
they continue to live their private life while simultaneously paying the
cashier-machine without a single word of human conversation. In short,
not a great example of emotional intelligence.
True, this doesn’t apply to everyone. There are those who maintain a rich social life
by interacting with others face to face, creating genuine and high
quality friendships that will prove successful when put to the test.
These kids use a real and internal scale to evaluate their self-worth
and are not “addicted” to the applause of online Facebook
groups. They use Facebook in order to touch base with their broader
circle of friends and to connect with their more intimate friends. Yes,
there are still kids who are sensitive to others and know how to be
present not only physically but also mentally. They use Smartphones
wisely and effectively and live in public spaces with a high sensitivity
to the people around them. However, it would be wrong to say that they
represent all of society. It seems we have a whole range of problematic
behaviors that reflect a decline in our emotional intelligence.
Meanwhile, our advanced digital technology has helped make incredible
strides with the development of emotional abilities for robots. To
date, we already have robots who can read facial expressions, translate
them into emotions and act
on them. For instance, there is a robot who can recognize a sorrowful
facial expressions and respond with an emphatic interaction that
strives to improve the person’s emotional state. In addition, there are
further developments of highly advanced robots that are capable of
expressing a range of emotions. These robots are able to improve their
functionality by analyzing their failures and drawing conclusions.
In 2014, an advanced computer program passed the Turing Test at the
University of Reading. This is a test designed specifically to detect
whether the test is being taken by a computer or a human. The program,
which identified itself as a 13 year old child from Ukraine, managed to
deceive
the Turning Test with its answers and was not recognized as a robot.
Judging by the amazing progress in the field, it seems that we are
looking at a future where increasingly robots will succeed in passing
the test. When we evaluate the robots’ emotional progress versus the
humans’ emotional regression, there is a real fear that in the future more humans will fail the Turing Test, while more robots will pass it successfully.
See more on this issue in my new book, Internet Psychology: The Basics.
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