The Science Behind Behavior............
The incident happened three decades ago when I was in high school. But I
still remember it vividly. We had gone on a “culture trip” to spend a
few days in a remote village in central India to learn about village
life. The village was nondescript, clusters of mud huts surrounded by
wheat fields. For someone who grew up in the maximum city (link is external) of Bombay, it was a remarkable experience.
After the village leader had
welcomed us,
I was walking around the village when a beaming old woman
loudly beckoned me. She was at least 70, grizzled and lean with the
build and posture of someone who has labored in the fields all their
life. Her hut was very basic (link is external), essentially a one-room shack made of mud and cow dung (link is external) and a thatched roof. When I peeked inside, it had little more than a charpai (link is external),
or a traditional woven bed, a few pots and pans in the corner, some
containing stored foodstuffs, and a smoky fire burning in the center.
Everything the woman possessed could be easily stacked on the single
charpai bed with plenty of room to spare. Despite her meager house and
few possessions, her face lit up with the most brilliant and welcoming
smile. Because I could not understand her language, she gestured to me
to sit on the charpai. She offered me a steaming glass of tea and a
plate of food. After I finished it, she offered me even more and would
not take 'no' for an answer.
I was floored. Here was a woman who had barely enough to eat and
little else besides. Yet she was offering me, a perfect stranger, a
large fraction of what she possessed. On a relative scale, this is
greater generosity
than I have encountered before or since. What is more, her offering was
made unreservedly and with complete good nature, with no expectation of
receiving anything in return.
The reason I remember this experience so vividly all these years
later is because of the question that formed in my mind then, which I
still haven’t been able to answer satisfactorily:
How can someone who is hanging by a thread economically, having so little money and possessions still be so happy, so confident, so full of joie de vivre, so generous, and so willing to share?
There are many lessons to learn from this old woman about what it
means to be happy, to live a meaningful life, and the relatively minor
role money and possessions play in such a life. However, the lesson I
want to focus on in this blog post is the relationship between having
and giving.
This old woman is not an anomaly. It turns out that people who have
less give more. In one paper, social psychologists compared low and high
social class individuals, defining social class with the person’s own estimate (link is external) of their socioeconomic rank based on education,
income, and occupation status relative to others in their community. In
their studies, low social class participants were more generous and
believed they should give more of their annual income to charity (4.95
percent vs. 2.95 percent). They were also more likely to trust strangers
and showed more helping behavior towards someone in distress. Contrarily, other research has found that higher social class individuals are more unethical (link is external). They are more likely to take things from others, lie, and cheat.
Why do those who have less give more? Part of the reason lies in the fact that they are more compassionate (link is external) and more sensitive to the need of others (link is external). Psychologists refer to their way of thinking as a “contextualist tendency (link is external)” marked by an external focus on what is going on in their environment and with other people. On the other hand, those who have more tend to be self-centered (link is external) with “solipsistic tendencies” that are concentrated on their own internal states, goals, motivations, and emotions.
They also vary in their time orientations. Those who have less are focused on the present (link is external) whereas those who have more are future-oriented to a greater extent (link is external).
Like the old woman, the poor may choose to behave on their generous
impulses in the here and now, instead of thinking much about the future
repercussions of their giving inclinations.
Many readers will consider the old woman’s generosity to be foolish
and reckless, harmful to her own well-being. However, when I look back
and recall the expression of unalloyed happiness on her face, I cannot help but feel envious of her in a way that I don’t feel envious of anyone else.
Yes, having money and high social status is certainly a good thing in
many respects. Money provides comfort and security, and a lack of it
can produce real hardships. But once our basic needs and even some
comforts are met, isn’t there value in experiencing compassion for
others and acting on this impulse? Isn’t there some benefit to being sensitive to the distress (link is external) of others, and behaving like the old woman in the Indian village at least once in a while?
By
Utpal Dholakia
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