As much as you may try to maintain a bland expression on your face
when you don’t want others to read your emotions, you may not realize
how important it is to control your body language when you want to appear inscrutable. Perhaps you’re meeting someone you’ve identified on a dating
app and now want to check out in person. As you sit in your local
coffee shop waiting for that all-important first encounter, you compose
your face into an expression you believe to be neutral. Unfortunately,
you failed to take the same precautions with your body. Your feet are
tapping, you’re leaning forward, and your hands are fidgeting. Your
prospective date will now be readily tuned in to recognize that you’re
anxious and insecure, and the rest of the event will undoubtedly not go
as you had planned.
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According to new research by Gijsbert Bijlstra and colleagues (2018)
of Radboud
University (the Netherlands), under some conditions people
are better able to recognize emotions from body language than they are
from facial expression. However, it's rare to go into a situation in
which you’re reading someone’s emotions from a completely neutral, or
“bottom-up,” standpoint where your expectations play no role in
interpreting that person's body language. Instead, you may be more
influenced than you realize by the “top-down” process of letting your
expectations color your perceptions. Perhaps in that online dating
scenario, you’ve already decided that the person you’re about to meet
is going to be someone you will like. You’ll therefore be more likely to
ignore or discount some of the qualities that might otherwise bother
you, such as the fact that your date doesn’t smile as much as you would
prefer.
Bijlstra and his colleagues propose that the process of reading other
people’s body language is influenced by so-called “social category”
cues that identify a person’s standing or position in society. In their
study, gender
became the social category cue that formed the focus of that top-down
process. The authors note that gender is inseparable from the way others
perceive you and, hence, the way they interpret your emotional
expression. If you’re a man displaying a “typical” male emotion, such as
anger,
others should be able to identify your emotion more rapidly than if
you’re a woman displaying the same “male” emotion. Conversely, a woman
showing a “typical” female emotion of sadness should also be more
quickly responded to than a man showing the same emotion.
To test their proposal that gender affects the perception of body
language, the Dutch authors created stimuli showing silhouettes of women
and men showing the same emotions. Their undergraduate participants
conducted a speeded classification task in which they were instructed to
identify the emotions depicted in these stimuli as fast as possible.
The authors compared the speed with which they classified
gender-congruent emotions with their speed in identifying
gender-incongruent emotions. As they predicted, participants more
readily identified anger in men and sadness in women than anger in women
and sadness in men.
The Biljstra et al. findings demonstrate that the way you interpret
people’s emotions is indeed affected by your expectations in the form of
stereotypes about the social category they represent. Although gender
was the only social cue investigated in this particular study, it would
be reasonable to expect that categories such as age, race, and social class could play similar roles in affecting the way you interpret emotions.
Flipping this around, the findings also imply that the way you’re
perceived is affected by the social cues you send to others by virtue of
the social categories you represent. If observers are essentially
programmed to see men as angry and women as sad, this means that even
without your deliberately trying to show yourself as angry or sad, your
gender might lead people to interpret your body language in a
stereotyped manner. It maybe therefore be particularly challenging for
women not to appear sad or men to appear angry.
The Dutch findings purposefully took other cues out of the equation
that would normally be provided by the way people dress, what they
actually say (and how they say it), and what their faces additionally
communicate. The authors did find weaker effects in the data when the
female stimuli did not have long hair, so this feature of appearance
must also be taken into account when you see people in real life. Since
you present a “total package” when others look at you, all of these
factors can combine to influence the way people read your emotional
cues.
It may strike you as somewhat depressing to think that people do not allow “bottom-up,” or experiential-based
conclusions, to drive their perceptions of you. It would be preferable
to think that your behavior alone, both verbal and nonverbal, drives
your interactions with others, so that you can control what people think
of you. Returning to the example of your first meeting with your online
date, would he or she have you pegged before you even rise to initiate a
greeting? It wouldn’t matter, according to this reasoning, whether you
maintain a completely inscrutable set of nonverbal cues. People are
ready to judge your emotion before you even slump your shoulders or
stand with your elbows akimbo, pointing out from your hips.
To counteract these immediate judgments, your best bet when you’re in
situations where you’re hoping not to have your emotions readily
communicated is to adopt as neutral a stance as possible. As much as
your facial expression matters, so does your head position. By the same
token, when you’re reading other people’s signals, recognize that your
own stereotypes can get in the way of your making accurate judgments.
Your own previous experience can either heighten or reduce those
stereotypes, making you even less able to read others.
In summary, body language is a form of communication
that can cut both ways, either to help or hinder your relationships.
Put it to your advantage by recognizing the biases that can keep it from
functioning as adaptively as possible.
About Author
Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., is a Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Her latest book is The Search for Fulfillment.
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