You don’t have to be hot to get more action in bed.
A new study found that people who find themselves sexy had the most active sex lives — and more partners in the sack.
Backing what most people already know, a questionnaire analyzed by two
Australian researchers found that the self-confident people enjoy the
deed more often than those who don’t identify as sexually attractive.
“Feeling sexually attractive is
associated with an individual feeling more confident as a sexual
partner, more satisfied with their sexual experiences, as well as
experiencing a greater frequency of sexual activity,” the study said.
Published this month in the International Journal of Psychology, the
study asked 3,000 people a series of questions — on sexual
attractiveness, esteem, satisfaction, activity and partners — to
determine the effect of sexual perception on sex.
It found that it’s not important to be hot, but rather to feel hot.
Regardless of sexual orientation, the study found people enjoyed their
time in between the sheets more if they believed statements like “I am
sexy” and “I can attract sexual partners.”
Meanwhile, people with negative body images are likely to avoid sex and relationships all together.
The results were not surprising to those knowledgeable on sex.
“Many individuals completely withhold or hold back certain components
of what arouses them due to anxiety about their body...and all of this
leads to both bad sex and having far less sex,” said Chris Donaghue, a
New York sex therapist and host of TV’s “Bad Sex.”
What was surprising, was that those who enjoy getting down to business more were women who considered themselves hot.
The study revealed females identify as attractive 10% more than men and therefore, enjoy sex more and have it more frequently.
That sex tidbit was surprising to Caitlin Gallen, who works as a staff coordinator at a Brookyln child-care center.
Despite her slim figure, flowy blond hair and blue eyes, Gallen said
her insecurity over her body sometimes plays into her head during sex.
“There’s a stigma to look a certain way, and then being slut shamed for
wanting what guys consider too much sex,” the 23-year-old said.
“I definitely do think about the way I look often enough and think I would have a better time if I felt good about myself.”
Whenever she’s feeling “ugly,” Pavithra Somasundaram, a Pennsylvania graduate student, agreed her sex-life takes a hit.
“The sex more often than not just doesn't happen because I can't enjoy
it when I am too focused on whether my stomach is bloated or something
else,” the 27-year-old, who has been married for seven years, said.
Experts on the topic said it’s harder than ever to feel attractive with a bombardment of beautiful selfies on social media.
“Women tend to be very self-sabotaging when its comes to sex. They tend
to focus more on what's wrong with their bodies than what is right
(which is everything),” said Shannel Parker, director of Pure Romance — a
nonprofit that aims to empower women in their sex lives.
For those very reasons, the study believes women polled higher against men in so many areas.
“They may place greater importance on being sexually attractive
and consequently rate their sexual attractive-ness more favorably than
men, in order to feel that they adhere to this ideal,” the study
explained.
Where men were the winners was in the realm of sexual partners, with men having on average 28% more partners than ladies.
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