How To Deal When You Don't Want To *Do It* As Much As Your S.O.

Sexual desire ebbs and flows. It’s totally normal for you to not be in the mood today but want to jump your partner tomorrow, or for your partner to want it on the daily while you prefer more of a weekly get-down. But what if you feel like you and your partner have completely mismatched libidos and that it’s impacting the quality of your relationship?

 

In a recent survey of

Male Erogenous Zones You Need To Play With

These sensitive areas, called erogenous zones, can generate sexual responses that are similar to or just as satisfying as playing with your partner’s private bits, thanks to the release of the same feel-good chemicals that are activated in the brain during sex itself. By just giving a little TLC to these special spots, you can show you partner how into their entire body you are—making them feel way sexier and motivating them to give you their all.

Do you usually make time for foreplay or just get straight to it?

If all that hasn’t got you convinced, a study even backed this up, pinpointing the 10 best male hot spots. While the penis came out on top (no shocker there), there are plenty of other sensitive parts he wants you to include in the action.

I even reached out to a few sexperts to add more must-hit buttons—here are the 16 erogenous zones for men—plus a few pointers about how to stimulate each one to keep the pleasuring coming and coming and coming…

      1. His Feet

15 Women Get Real About Wedding Night Sex

I’ve always been convinced that if I get married, I will definitely NOT be doing the deed that night. If it all goes down the way I envision it, I’ll be partying and dancing so hard that I pass out—cake in-hand, still in my dress—with my partner asleep (hopefully) somewhere near me.

Apparently, this sexless fantasy of mine is not that far-fetched. According to a survey of 3,030 people conducted by The Vow,

The People Who Are Most Likely To Cheat On Their Spouses -Study

You probably have a mental image of a cheater as someone young, slick, and super good-looking. And, while that might be accurate on some level, new research has found the people most likely to cheat aren’t who you think they are—they’re your parents and grandparents.

That shocking info comes courtesy of a Study

5 Things You Need to Know About Pansexuality

Pansexuality is not the same as being Bisexual !

Miley Cyrus' relationship with Liam Hemsworth isn't the only aspect of her love life she's been talking about recently—she's also been opening up about identifying as "pansexual."

 In 2016, Cyrus told Variety

If You Want A Hotter Sex Life, Ask Your Partner These 8 Questions

Are you ready to rumble?

Want hotter sex, a better bond with your partner, or all of the above? Before you even test drive a new position or call in a toy for backup, it’s worth having a sexy Q and A sesh with your partner.

But you can leave questions like, “What’s your favorite position?” to the rookies. Instead, bookmark these sexologist-approved Qs for some heated conversation. Here we go!

'We Haven’t Had Sex In A While—Is That A Problem?

Girl, we get it. While we'd all like to be getting more action than our Netflix accounts and sweatpants, at the end of an insane day using downtime for sex doesn't always sound as awesome as taking a bubble bath, scrolling through Instagram, or literally any other relaxing activity. But at what point does the lack of sex in your life become an actual issue between you and your bae?
 

Tell A Doctor.....

While both a dry spell

SEX: Is Your Career Killing Your Sex Life?

 

While you usually try to keep your sex life and work life pretty separate (except for that office holiday party hookup you're still trying to forget), compartmentalizing your deskside issues from your bedside time is often easier said than done. And that's true whether you're on track to becoming the boss lady or you and your partner just hit an economic rough patch. Here, we spoke with experts to find out how you can keep your work/sex balance in check.

The Problem: You Were Just Promoted

8 Guys Share the Things They Wish They Knew About Sex Before They Started Doing It

"I honestly wish I had known how good it would feel."

Before you've done it yourself, sex is something you can learn a lot about through research (see: porn) and asking others who've experienced it firsthand.

 But you can't really understand it until you try it out yourself. Because of that, there are a few things guys get wrong about getting jiggy

‘I Didn't Have Sex For 7 Years—This Is What It Was Like When I Finally Did It Again'

Get it, girl!

This article was written by Ronnie Koenig and provided by our partners at Prevention.

After three kids, Rebecca's* marriage turned sexless, and eventually ended in divorce. It was seven years before she had sex again. Here, she explains what it was like to dive back in.

When I was in college, I was always the first of my friends to try new things, and that included sex. I was the one who lost her virginity the earliest, and when friends needed relationship advice they always came to me. I guess, in a way, I was more curious than a lot of my friends, and a lot more confident in my looks. Being petite, blonde, and having a bubbly personality meant I never lacked attention from the opposite sex (and in a few instances, members of the same sex). (Looking for more ways to live a happy, healthy life? Order Prevention—and get a FREE Yoga DVD when you subscribe today.)

‘I Tried the Vagina Shot That's Supposed to Make Sex Better—Here's What It Was Like'

This article was written by Rebecca Jane Stokes and republished with permission from YourTango.
When Smooth Synergy medispa invited me to have a needle injected into my clitoris last February, I didn't want to do it.

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I didn't say no directly. I said yes, because I'm a sex

SEX: ‘I Tried a Sex Position Called the ‘‘Passion Pretzel"—and it Was Freaking Amazing'

It was definitely better than the snack from Auntie Anne's.

This article was written by Reena Rao and republished with permission from YourTango.

At first, I was a little confused about the passion pretzel sex position,

7 Oral Sex Tips GUARANTEED To Rock Her Ever-Loving World

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Stop Masturbation Addiction - HEALTH

 
Many of you ask about masturbation addiction. First you should understand that an addiction is when something has taken over your life. It's not just because you want to do it sometimes.

Things to know: Female and Male Health

1. A penis is a body part, therefore you cannot make it grow any more than you can grow your hand or your foot. If you happen to be young and start to use creams or lotions to increase the size of your penis, the increase in size is most likely the result of normal growth and not any cream.

Pay attention to the fact that your penis size changes as your body grows and that may continue until you are in your early 20's. Stop worrying about the size.

How to Have Hot Sex After 10+ Years Of Marriage, According To Real Couples

Staying together for the long haul doesn’t necessarily mean action in the bedroom has to suffer. In fact, knowing each other so well can actually make things even hotter in that arena.

Need proof? We spoke to real couples, all of whom have been together for 10 years or longer and rank their sex lives very highly. Lucky for you, they were willing to share their secrets.

Put it on the calendar

Speed Up Your Orgasm with These 4 Hot Tips

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6 Ways to Make Sex with Condoms Feel SO Much Better

Like flossing your teeth, using condoms is one of those things that's necessary but not always enjoyable. But as we all learned back in sex ed, when used properly, a penis raincoat can protect you from STIs and pregnancy more effectively than any other method.

That’s why we freaked when we saw this study, which suggests that pretty much no one is using them. Of the 25 women aged 18-24 that were interviewed, only two of them said using condoms consistently is important. And even those two women didn't use them every time they had sex.
“A lot of women are using birth control, so they’re less concerned about an unwanted pregnancy," says NYC-based sex therapist Michael Aaron, Ph.D.

7 Things Guys Think About When They’re Taking Off Your Clothes

Few things in this world compare to a woman undressing. While it’s not quite as great as, you know, the sexual activities that tend to follow said nudity, it gets us super excited.

Here are just a few of the things guys think about when they’re helping you take off your clothes.

1. "OK, so this is really happening." There’s almost always a little sense of disbelief or self-doubt in the moments leading to a hookup

7 Things Guys Think About When You’re on Top

Have you ever been on top of a dude during sex and looked down to see that he’s in a moment of deep thought?

Well, that's not unusual. Girl on top requires the least amount of physical effort on our end, freeing up the mind to wander a bit. It’s also one of the best positions to, you know, take it all in. While I have nothing against the other 35 positions, missionary definitely leaves a lot more to the imagination.