Relationship: "WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS"

There are people that will never get in touch with you except when they have needs.
This kind of people will always drain you emotionally, financially, spiritually and otherwise.

When they need money they call you.
Once they are emotionally down, the first number to call is yours.
If they have a challenge and they need prayers, your name comes to their mind.

The painful part of this kind of people is that, they don't ever take responsibility for their life.
I call them very VNP - Very Needy People.
It's so annoying that this guy's can't be there for you when you need them.

Whenever you call them to help you get something or run some simple errand, they give all the excuses in the world.
You will always hear them tell you how "a bird was shot and the mother flew away"
They can't give you their time.
Selfishness is their lifestyle.

If friendship is not symbiotic, then it's useless.
If you are my friend and I don't benefit from you, I don't need you.
It might be simple advice or word of hope, even a call just to see how good am doing.
I am talking of someone that once i see his call, i can predict the conversation before i pick.

I don't need a friend that can't listen to my challenges but only wants me to hear his or her own problems.
We are human and we all need someone to advice, encourage and even listen to us sometimes no matter how good we are doing.
If you burden people with your needs constantly then you are a Very Needy Person and some people will ignore your calls or presence if they have not started.

We must get to a stage in our life that we don't need everyone on our friend list.
Some should remain as colleagues, another should just stay as acquaintance and while others can just be classified as relatives.

If you try to listen to all VNP, you will destroy your emotional balance because their inadequacy will affect you.

They will keep telling you stories of how the country is bad and they have been cheated and how nobody loves them.
The more of such stories you hear the more you get worried and sooner or later if your mind is not guarded you will fall into their level.

As much as you can, periodically you have to audit your contact and know who you should stay in touch with.
Avoid some people politely, guard your heart and stay productive for people that truly needs your help.

Their is a proverbs that says "the boy is good, it only results in wastefulness"

My name is Femi Adetayo your Mind Transformation Coach.
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