Orgasms don't always come easy, but thanks to the
wildly subjective nature of human pleasure, there are so, so many ways
to reach that "O." While it’s true that those of us with vaginas have a lower orgasm rate
than the penis-havers out there (can I get an "ugh?"), it’s also true
that the erectile tissue in a female body is spread out over a larger
area, meaning more erogenous zones for you to enjoy and more ways to
reach climax (YAS!).
Now, "different orgasms," doesn't really mean different types
of climax, so much as different ways to evoke the sensation. "Most
researchers tend to believe that there’s really only one kind of orgasm
that can be triggered by different parts of the body" says Vanessa
Marin, a sex therapist and the creator of Finishing School, an online orgasm course for women.
Sheila Loanzon, M.D.,
a board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist and a fellow of the
American Congress of Obstetrics and Gynecology, agrees. "Instead of
thinking about kinds of orgasm, there are different ways
that an orgasm can be reached," she tells WomensHealthMag.com. "There
can be clitoral, vaginal, breast, inner thigh, toe sucking, oral,
sensual massage, and mental orgasms and so many more!"
Now let's get started.
1. Clitoral orgasm
The
clitoris is a small, nerve-dense structure seated at the top of the
vaginal opening, and serves no function other than to provide sexual
pleasure. "If you’ve never had an orgasm before, you want to start with
the clitoris," Marin says.
How to have a clitoral orgasm:
First things first, you need to figure out if you prefer direct or
indirect stimulation, which is to say, touching the clitoris itself, or
through the labia and clitoral hood. Marin suggests rubbing it with your
fingers (rather than a sex toy) at first, "going in a spiral type of
shape around your clitoris."
"Start pretty far from it and then spiral in closer
to it until you’re finally spiraling over it, and then spiraling back
out," she says. Note when and how your body responds: With that
knowledge base, experiment with different types of touch until you find
the one that works for you.
2. G-spot orgasm
"The
G spot is a hypothesized highly erogenous area on the anterior (or
front) vaginal wall of the urethral sponge that can be stimulated during
sexual activity," Loanzon says. "It is the female equivalent to the
prostate."
How to have a G-spot orgasm: "Pee first so you don’t hold yourself back from climax as G-spot stimulation can lead to a need-to-pee sensation and female ejaculation," says Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure.
"Insert your middle finger in the vagina, on the belly-button side of
the body. You’ll feel an area that’s likely corrugated in texture. Stop
there and use a come-hither motion to stimulate or a toy rubbing or
vibrating in that area." Or, if you’re having penetrative sex, try a position that hits your G-spot—rear entry positions work well for this—and keep stimulating the area until you climax.
3. Blended orgasm
"Blended orgasms
are combining clitoral stimulation with some kind of other stimulation,
and that can actually be a great way—once you’ve mastered the clitoral
orgasm—to figure out what other parts of your body feel like," Marin
says. So, theoretically, you could achieve blended orgasm from
stimulating your nipples and your G-spot simultaneously, but the most
common combination is clitoris and G-spot.
How to have a blended orgasm:
If you’ve got both the G-spot and the clitoral orgasm down, you’re in
great shape—basically, just stimulate the G-spot at the same time you
stimulate your clit.
4. Anal orgasm
"There are shared nerves from the anterior wall of the rectum to the vagina," Loanzon previously told WomensHealthMag.com,
"so for vagina owners, it may be possible for sexual arousal to occur
from rectal stimulation." Plus the legs of the clitoris stretch all the
way back to the anus, so backdoor stimulation can fire up the clit, too.
How to have an anal orgasm: Alicia Sinclair, a certified sex educator and the CEO of b-vibe
recommends incorporating your tried-and-true orgasm maneuvers into any
anal adventure. She also suggests easing into anal play by inserting a
finger first, "so that you can be the giver and receiver." Use lots of
lube, too, and work your way in slowly.
"When
you put something inside the anal canal," Sinclair explains, "push up in
the same way toward the belly button, as you would in the vagina." That
way, "you have that same possibility of stimulating that central nerve
area."
5. A-spot orgasm
"Located toward the end of vaginal canal," the A-spot sits near the entrance to the uterus, says Damian Jacob Sendler, M.D., Ph.D., chief of sexology and clinical research programs at Felnett Health Research Foundation for North America.
"The
tissue itself is very similar in physiological arousal pattern to the
male prostate—in can engorge with blood, becoming slightly bigger during
sex, so the penis massages it during copulation."
How to have an A-spot orgasm:
Although some experts are skeptical as to the A-spot’s purported
erogenous potential, believers say that if you insert a finger (or
whatever other penetrative tool you’re using) up to the G-spot, and then
keep moving deeper—toward the cervix—you can achieve a powerful climax
by stimulating the area as you would your G-spot.
According to Sendler, the best way to activate the
A-spot is through rear-entry, PIV sex. "Some patients can get pleasure
from anal sex as well," he adds,
6. C-spot orgasm
The
C-spot is your cervix, and involves nerve endings located in the cervix
and around the uterus, Sendler says. Anatomical differences and
surgical history—i.e., a hysterectomy that involves the cervix's
removal—can affect a person's ability to achieve cervical
orgasm, as can a partner's penis size (if your partner happens to have a
penis). Heavy thrusting with a particularly well-endowed partner may
hurt, so communicate about how cervical stimulation feels for you.
How to have a cervical orgasm: The key to a cervical orgasm is the build-up, Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., author of The New Sex Bible
told WomensHealthMag.com. You have a better chance of achieving one—and
of enjoying pleasurable, rather than painful, C-spot sensations—if
you’re very turned on. So, save deep penetration until you’re close to
climax, and then have your partner thrust so that they hit your cervix.
(Or, do the same with your sex toy or finger.)
7. U-spot orgasm
The
U-spot surrounds the urethra—"you can think of it as the hat of
urethra, when looking directly at the urethral opening," Sendler says.
To find it, find your urethra (just below the clitoris), and touch the
surface immediately superior to it.
"The U-spot
is composed of contractile tissue, mainly because it has a muscle
responsible for closing the urethra after urinating. This muscle, like
other clitoral structures, is sensitive to vibratory stimulation,"
Sendler says.
How to have a U-spot orgasm: As sex M.D. Madeleine Castellanos has explained on her blog, the keys to stimulating the U-spot successfully are a light touch and lubrication. It’s
a great spot to hit during oral sex, and if you’re having PIV sex,
during foreplay. "You do not need to put a lot of pressure on it, and
many women have discovered this spot just from their partner rubbing the
head of their penis up and down their labia," Castellanos writes. Just
keep things focused on stroking—the U-spot does not respond well to
pushing or jabbing.
8. Nipples
You
probably already know where and what the nipples are, but what you
might not know is that some people can orgasm solely from their
stimulation. As Men’s Health reported, in one study of 213 women, 29 percent reported having had a breast-based orgasm at some point in their lives.
"When the nipples are stimulated, oxytocin is
released, which causes the same uterine and vaginal contractions
associated with orgasm," says ob-gyn Christiane Northrup, M.D., author
of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom. "This brings more blood flow to the genitals and can trigger an orgasm."
How to have a nipple orgasm:
"When it comes to nipple/breast pleasure, I wouldn’t get too hung up on
the goal of orgasm," O’Reilly says. "Focus on the pleasure and see
where it leads, as pressure is the antithesis to pleasure."
O'Reilly
recommends experimenting with the area right above the areola, which
many people find to be the most touch-sensitive. "Start on the outer
edges, using the backs of your fingers and circle your way slowly into
the center," O'Reilly says, and roll the nipple between thumb and
forefinger.
Some people may find it feels great to have a
partner breath on, lick, suck, or pinch the nipples: This is all
subjective, so it's a matter of playing around to determine what feels
best for you. A light touch, at least at first, may be best for breast
action: gentle boob cupping while stimulating the nipples with a tongue
or vibrator, rather than full-on grabbing.
9. Coregasm
A coregasm is "when you work out and you have orgasms" just from the physical activity, Marin says.
How to have a coregasm:
Unfortunately, this may not be something you can train your body to do.
"It seems to be people are kind of born doing that and it kind of tends
to be an annoyance, more often than not," Marin continues. Because
yeah, exercising in a crowded gym and not being able to stop yourself
from climaxing can get...awkward.
Typically, Marin explains, coregasms happen in two
ways: "One is from running, where your thighs might be rubbing together
and you’re getting a little bit of indirect clitoral stimulation." But
"the more common one is from core workouts.
So some women will have them from just doing situps, other women from
yoga-type practices, or being in a bridge position where you really have
your core engaged."
10. Skin orgasm
A
skin orgasm is also called "frisson," the tingle that runs through your
limbs when you hear a particularly affecting song: Maybe you get
goosebumps, maybe your hair stands up, maybe you get a little shiver.
How to have a skin orgasm: Research shows skin orgasms
are most commonly triggered by music—but emotionally-evocative scenes
in movies, moving artworks, or even other people with whom you feel a
very special connection can spark frisson. It’s an unpredictable one,
though.
11. Breath orgasm
"Sex is often pigeon-holed into a physical act involving the genitals, but the reality is that the hottest sex happens between our ears—and is often enhanced by how we use our breath/lungs," O'Reilly says. "Your breath impacts your interpretation of sensations and helps to put your mind into a state conducive to experiencing pleasure." Which is to say, you can in fact breathe your way to climax—while also dismissing the intrusive thoughts that can distract from pleasure, O'Reilly adds.
How to have a breath orgasm:
First things first, O'Reilly suggests finding a quiet, comfortable
place to lie down on your back. Placing your hand on your belly, breathe
in deeply through your nose, such that you can feel your hand rise and
fall, and exhale through an open mouth. Slowly, begin a mental scan of
your body from head to toe, actively relaxing each body part as you go.
"The
way you breathe has a significant impact on your sexual and orgasmic
response," O'Reilly explains. "And though each of our bodies is unique,
many people report that deep, slow breathing intensifies their orgasms
and can even result in multiple climaxes."
But because everyone orgasms differently—whether
from breathing exercises or physical touch—there's no right way to do
this: "You have to experiment with different types of breathing to see
what works for you," she continues, whether that's rapid, shallow
breaths, slow, deep breaths, inhalation through the nostrils, or any
other type of breathing that feels especially good to you as you imagine
yourself in an arousing scenario.
12. Fantasy orgasm
"So
powerful is the mind’s hold over our sexuality that some people can
actually 'think' themselves off," says O'Reilly. This one is pretty
self-explanatory: We're talking about fantasizing your way to climax—not
touching your body, just flexing your mind muscles until you peak.
Often, breath work and fantasy will go hand-in-hand—you may well find
that visualizing scenarios and your body's response works best in
conjunction with breathing exercises.
How to have a fantasy orgasm:
"Though only a small percentage of people report being able to reach
orgasm through fantasy alone, you may want to experiment with the power
of your mind," O'Reilly says. "Allowing your mind to wander into
unchartered territory can help you to recognize and benefit from your
most genuine fantasies and untapped desires."
Don't
place any fantasy off limits, just let your mind go where it wants to
go: Settle on your sexiest possible scenario—while also engaging
whatever breath work feels best to you—and immerse yourself in it,
imagining the touch and the atmosphere. Really get yourself into the
scene, and just keep using your imagination until you and your fantasy
self-climax.
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