8 Guys Share the Things They Wish They Knew About Sex Before They Started Doing It

"I honestly wish I had known how good it would feel."

Before you've done it yourself, sex is something you can learn a lot about through research (see: porn) and asking others who've experienced it firsthand.

 But you can't really understand it until you try it out yourself. Because of that, there are a few things guys get wrong about getting jiggy with it, like what actually goes down during foreplay, how sex actually compares to putting your penis in a pie, and that size isn't that big of a deal.

Here, guys share the things they wish they'd known about sex before they started doing it.

1. "I thought I'd be good right away."

"I wish I'd known that sex was something you really had to practice to be good at. For some reason, I thought I'd be great at it right away, but I was terrible." —Sam F.

2. "Women's orgasms don't always come easy."

"I assumed that it would be as easy for a girl to orgasm as it is for a guy. I was wrong." —M.J. F.

3. "Sex doesn't feel like pie."

"I honestly wish I had known how good it would feel. It's not easy to explain what sex feels like and it's not comparable to anything else. It's not like sticking your junk in a warm apple pie. I wasn't prepared, and I came in like a minute. Maybe less." —Marshall L.

4. "You don't have to love the person you sleep with."

"I didn't realize that sex was something that didn't have to go beyond physical pleasure. Maybe it was all of the movies I watched, but the first few women I slept with I immediately fell in love with. The feeling wasn't mutual, and it really tore me up. Since then, I've gotten better at keeping emotion out of it when it seems like the right thing to do." —Vince T.

5. "Foreplay IRL is not like porn."

"I wish I'd known more about foreplay. It took me a long time to get that down. It didn't help that my frame of reference was porn. In porn, foreplay is like 20 minutes of a dude getting oral and then maybe one minute of him going down on her." —Ken E.

6. "Sex will take over your brain."

"I didn't realize that once I had sex, doing it would be pretty much all I thought about forever. You can't really prepare yourself for how much your hormones will want it, but it would have been nice to know anyway." —Brian W.

7. "Condoms smell weird."

"Unlike a lot of guys, I never messed around with condoms before I had sex for the first time. So I didn't know how terrible they smell. It's worth it to wear one, but a condom mixed with sex smells is not pleasant." —Arturo N.

8. "Penis size really doesn't matter much."

"I didn't know that there's more to sex than penis size—a lot more. I had all this anxiety about my penis for years before I lost my virginity, but then I found out that I could do a fine job with what I had." —Henry M.

By Scott Power