So many questions. Let's begin with the basics.
1.
Your penis is not a plant. It does not grow past a certain stage. Each
person is different so there is no way to know when that stage happens
for you. It may stop growing at 18 or 25.
2.
Just because you think that your penis is small, it probably is not -
especially if you ave been comparing yourself to a porn star. The
average penis is 5 inches long and 4 - 5 inches around when it is erect.
3. Some men have the same size erect and soft. Others grow substantially when erect.
4. You can permanently injure your penis with all of the claims that will take your money and make no guarantees.
5. Great sex is rarely about penis size. Love your body as it is.
Here
is a good response to a question on the Scarleteen website. They have
many links for other questions. PLEASE read before asking questions.
PLEASE ask questions about the penis ONLY on this post.
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Penises
gradually get longer and thicker during puberty: this phase can start
in the early teens and end in the twenties. Some people start earlier,
some start later, and some people finish this process earlier than
others; others finish it later. Physical development can happen slowly
and gradually and/or quickly in 'spurts'. Your penis may well have grown
gradually over this period without you noticing.
The
most reliable and robust studies suggest that the average length of an
erect adult human penis is 5.1 inches to 5.7 inches (12.9 cm to 14.5
cm). (For more about average penis size this piece from Cory Silverberg
is excellent: http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/a/average_penis.htm )
The majority of members are around that size, but that's an average,
and like all averages, it means there are also loads of people with
penises which are bigger or smaller than that.
In
rare cases, a difference in fetal development or physical/chemical
makeup means that someone has a very, very small penis, which can be
treated with hormones after birth or around puberty, more on this here http://sexuality.about.com/od/malesexualanatomy/a/micropenis.htm If you feel this may apply to you, please consider seeing a healthcare practitioner.
The
size of a person's erect penis can vary a little depending on (for
example) how sexually aroused that person is or how warm/cold the
temperature of the room is. Penis size varies from member to member much
more when they are soft than when they're hard. Penises that are
smaller when soft tend to increase in length and thickness when they get
hard much more than penises that are bigger when soft. Ever heard the
terms 'grower' or 'show-er'.
Example:
the guy you saw after your weightlifting class would probably have been
a 'show-er', that is, his penis was probably showing its full length in
its flaccid state (I'm assuming he was soft) so when he gets hard he
will probably not be bigger.
When
guys compare themselves to other guys they are usually comparing soft
penises and they vary in size much more than hard penises. Also, when
you were looking at the guy in the changing room you were probably
looking at the full length of his penis. Ever looked at your penis in a
full length mirror? Ever notice that your penis looks bigger than when
you look down on it from your point of view?
Whilst
I'm talking about comparing, guys sometimes also compare (either
knowingly or without them realising) their penis size to the guys they
see in porn: please please please remember that one of the
qualifications for being a porn performer is having a bigger than
average penis, mmkay? (Surprisingly, one of the requirements is not a
GCSE in Drama).
As
you say there aren't any magic pills, stretching methods or surgical
procedures that are clinically proven to extend penis size. There are,
however, a couple of tips and tricks to feel more comfortable about your
soft penis size for when you're in changing room situations. For more
on that I made a video which you can see here: http://bishuk.com/2010/09/29/be-satisfied-with-your-penis-size/
You
said that your penis works fine. I'm assuming that you are able to
enjoy touching it and that it gives you pleasure, if so, great! You
should know that even any size penis, including those under average, can
potentially bring pleasure when you have sex with someone, both to you
and your partner. For instance if you plan on having penis in vagina
sex, the most sensitive part of the vagina is just an inch or two from
the opening (on the upper wall of the vagina, behind the clitoris). FYI,
most females can't have an orgasm from just penis in vagina sex, no
matter how big the penis.
You
should also know that even having a big penis doesn't guarantee that
your partner will enjoy having sex with you. Just like any size penis
can potentially be pleasurable to a partner, any size penis also may not
offer a partner pleasure. That's about a lot of things, but mostly
about the fact that whether or not a sexual partner experiences pleasure
tends to have very little to do with anyone's penis. Good sexual
partners are caring, sharing, good listeners, good talkers and see their
brain as being the most important sexual organ.
So
to sum up so far: your penis has probably stopped growing, but it is
probably around average size. Having an average or bigger than average
penis (or any penis) doesn't mean you or your sex partner are going to
enjoy sex more.
Now
to the stuff about girlfriends: would you go out with someone because
you heard that they had amazing genitals? No? Thought not.
Women
that are interested in men don't go out with them just because they
think they have a big penis. Simple as. Can you imagine a relationship
where someone was only interested in the other person's genitals? Would
that be someone that you'd be interested in anyway, even if you had a
penis of blue whale dimensions? Penises make terrible boyfriends. They
aren't great at making conversation or making someone laugh, or giving
hugs or compliments: they also have rubbish taste in music and have
awful table manners.
If
you think women are going to go out with/not go out with a feller
because of their genitals then a) you should actually talk to some women
(clue: women want very similar things to men from relationships), or b)
you should think about what else you bring to the table other than your
penis.
If
you spent a bit more time thinking about the rest of you rather than
just your penis you might start to feel a bit more comfortable in your
own skin.
Try this page from my website: http://bishuk.com/2010/06/11/big-up-yourself/
It's
got a couple of resources on there for you to think about what kind of
person you are, why people like about you, what makes you attractive to
other people, why people like seeing you. It's not your penis that gets
you a girlfriend, it's all this stuff. It's also an opportunity for you
to think about what you want from a partner.
You are way more concerned about your penis size than any other future girlfriends would be. Please try to believe this.
These links may also help you:
Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown
Male Sexual Anatomy
Growers and Showers
Innies & Outies: The Penis, Testes and More
With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body
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