Even When We're Feeling Tired, Frustrated & Angry.
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This resulting list contains the 21 most lovable things about men
that first came to my mind. These aren't all of the reasons, of course,
but they are the ones that resonated with me the most. and hopefully,
some will with you as well!
1. Their bedhead.
Because
it doesn't matter how old they are, once their hair reaches a certain
length, god help them if they don't all look like they are
12-years-old when they first wake up in the morning.
2. Their eating habits.
I have never met a man whose eating
habits weren't specific, quirky, and weird. I dated one man who always
carried almonds and water and was a gym nut, but treated himself to
pizza rolls every Friday because that's how he grew up. There's
something sweet and charming about the way a man has learned to feed
himself, even if it makes no sense.
3. Their internet habits.
Is
there anything more personal than getting to know someone else's social
media routine? Watching a man navigate Facebook or Instagram, figuring
out which news sites they read, watching while they frantically try to
close out porn tabs, seeing where they do their shopping — it's a bit of
the mundane mixed with the intimate, and that is just delicious.
4. Their weirdness.
Everybody
is weird in their own wonderful way. Figuring out the specific ways in
which the man in your life is weird is one of life's joys. Does he talk
to his cat? Does he paint his toenails? Does he have a name for a penis?
The answer to at least one of these is probably yes.
5. Their bedtime routines.
We all get ready to go to
sleep differently, but there's something about watching a man get into
his PJs and then shuffle around looking for his toothbrush or his
chapstick that just makes them seem so darn vulnerable and sweet. It's
impossible to ever hate a man who has a special blanket he needs in
order to konk out.
6. Their facial hair.
Men
don't get a lot of choices when it comes to style. They wear suits.
They usually have short hair. Their shoes are boring as hell. Facial
hair is pretty much all they have to play with, and do they ever.
There's even a World Beard and Moustache Championships, held biennially by the World Beard and Moustache Association.
7. Their nudist tendencies.
Oh my god why
do all men love being naked so much? It's like they know their genitals
are bizarre and they revel in it! You gotta love how eager most men are
to get down to their nudeness the second they get home from work.
8. Their sense of humor.
Who loves puns? Men love puns! Who loves fart jokes? Men like fart jokes! There's a reason that when someone makes a horrible gag we call it a dad joke,
and it is inevitable that every man will eventually become one of those
guys in the office elevator telling a terrible joke that makes everyone
groan — and smile, of course.
9. Their confidence.
I hate this about men, but I also love
it. Men aren't afraid to take up space in the universe. They are
unabashedly themselves! They hold their heads up high even when they
really, really shouldn't. It's charming and awful and lovely and sexy.
10. Their singing voices.
In
the shower, every man thinks he can sing. It's just how things are. And
every man has two different singing voices: the one he uses to sing
around other people and then the super-secret-sexy-rocker voice they
just KNOW could get them a record deal if they really applied
themselves. Usually this is wrong.
11. Their dads.
Some
men love their fathers. Some men hate their fathers. Some never knew
them. Regardless, every man has a hot take on this central figure in
their lives. When they decide to share it with you in all its intricacy,
it feels like a tremendous gift. And it is.
12. Their outrage.
Anger
can be healthy, absolutely, but even when it's immature and silly
there's something endearing about an adult man yelling at an air
conditioner that won't install properly or a video game that seems hell
bent on refusing to let them win.
13. Their friends.
You find out who a man
really is when he's with his friends. Usually he's the same person he is
with you, only there's less talking and more interjections featuring
the word "dude." The friendships men create are different from the one's women create, but they're just as important.
14. Their sheepishness.
He
messed up and didn't notice your hair cut. He snapped at you when you
guys got lost driving somewhere in the middle of nowhere. He farted
during sex and started laughing about it. These things all sucked. What
didn't suck? The look on his face when he realized he screwed up and
came to make amends.
15. Their pet peeves.
Why is it that learning what annoys a
man is so darn satisfying? He hates it when people sniff. He can't stand
the way lobsters look in tanks at the grocery store. He gets easily
annoyed by at least a million other silly, trivial things, and instead
of that annoying you right back, it only makes you love him even more.
16. Their communication.
No
one is a master at talking things through, but when you're with someone
who knows they aren't a master but is willing to try his absolute best
anyway, there is nothing more lovely. He might not always be able to
articulate what he's thinking and feeling, but he'll tough it out and
try to anyway because he knows it's important.
17. Their passions.
When
men really love something, like a book or a tv show or a movie or an
idea or a politician, they light up like children. There is a reckless
level of enthusiasm that makes you want to warn them to protect their
hearts, but you don't, and so they wind up arguing with people about the
new Star Wars movie and all you can do is rub his back.
18. Their strength.
It doesn't matter if he's actually
physically strong, because when a man loves you he will be strong for
you. He will hold you up. He will be at your back. He will give you what
you need. And yes, if at all possible, he will offer to carry the
groceries in from the car.
19. Their devotion.
When
a man loves you, he is your ride or die. He sticks up for you when
others wouldn't. He's loyal to a fault. He digs a trench so deep it
could bury you both but he doesn't even care because the two of your are
together in it. Goonies never say die.
20. Their guilty pleasures.
Men aren't guilty about their guilty pleasures. If they love watching reruns of "The Nanny," they will tell you. If they really like "Yacht Rock", they will tell you. To a man, it's like there can never be anything shameful about anything that actually makes them happy.
21. Their ability to love.
Men do not have it easier than women do. Period. End of sentence.
We
all have our struggles on micro and macro levels as genders, and life
is hard on people no matter who you are. And the fact that men can
continue to love with big, wide, open hearts just as fearlessly as women
do in spite of it all is part of what makes them so damn lovable in the
first place.
Yourtango
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