"Sex Life after Gender-Confirmation Surgery......."
In high school, I considered myself gay because I
was in a male body and was attracted to boys. But I always dressed
feminine: I had bleached-blonde hair and wore makeup, girls’ jeans, and
tight shirts.
I come from small town in
Indiana, where it seemed like everyone was straight and in a
relationship. I was often the oddball left alone at the end of the
night. I never had any sexual experiences with girls. They’d try, but I
wasn’t interested. I even felt suicidal at times, because I didn’t feel
like I could express my attraction or love for men.
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My first hookup was junior year of high school, with a boy from a different town who played football. We gave each other head. For
the first time, I felt worthy. To have this boy hold me, to have a
physical connection with someone, made me feel so




